Etiquette Q&A;

    • How to state on wedding invitations no children?

    • Where is the proper place to write your gift register for weddings?

    • How and where to properly to ask your guest for money instead of gifts?

    • My parents are divorced but my mother has remarried. How do I list them both as hosts on my wedding invitation?

    • When is the correct time to do a wedding announcement?


    How to state on wedding invitations no children? top

    The invitations should not state the exclusion of children.  The proper way to indicate this is to address the inner envelope only to those who are invited.  For example your outer envelope will be addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and the inner invitation should be addressed John and Mary.

    Where is the proper place to write your gift register for weddings? top

    Registry information for weddings should only be listed on your wedding website or shower invitations.  It should not be included with your wedding invitation at all.  If asked, it is ok to give that information.  Be sure that your parents, siblings and wedding party have the information in the event that someone asks them.

    How and where to properly to ask your guest for money instead of gifts? top

    It is never proper to ask guests for gifts or money.  Only if asked by a guest what you would prefer is it ok to discuss gifts.  Don’t initiate the conversation or imply that money matters most to you.  If asked, you could say, “we are saving for new living room furniture,  so if you like the idea of giving a check as a gift, that is how we will use it, but we are happy with whatever you decide.  Thank you.”

    My parents are divorced but my mother has remarried. How do I list them both as hosts on my wedding invitation? top

    When both parents hosts, the bride's mother's name appears first followed by the fathers name on a seperate line so that you don't indicare they are still married.  If they have remarried, list their new spouses as well.  In these cases, the bride should be listed by her full name.

    When is the correct time to do a wedding announcement? top

    The wedding announce can be sent to anyone who you may think is interested in your good news of your nuptials.  It's a good idea to get them done at the same time you do your invites so that they are ready to be sent as soon as the wedding is over.